Fear:The Abstract Noun

“Fear in inevitable,I have to accept that I cannot allow it to paralyze me” By :Isabel Allende

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What is fear? Fear is an emotion ,one that is caused by the belief that something is dangerous, likely to cause pain,or is a threat.We fear the unknown,what is different, or just something that takes us out of our own comfort zone.There are times when we anticipate a probable bad outcome even before we have a chance to encounter the experience:that is fear at work and doing at little overtime.

If we live in fear, we limit ourselves and our experiences in life, and the majority of us only get one chance at it.Now there are some chosen few who are like cats, and may be working on their sixth of their nine lives,lol.

You can’t stop fear from being an emotion that you may have, and I’m not saying to not be cautious in some of your choices as well.But do not allow fear to inhibit you from trying new things.We tend to fear the unknown, I get that, it’s part of our human nature.Once you encounter an experience it goes from being unknown to the “been there done that have a shirt to prove it”memory repertoire.After the experience, you can make the judgement call if you will do whatever it is again, but with validity because you have tried it at least once.

In our later years it’s our experiences that make for the best memories, that give us the best  colorful stories to share, and the most vivid images in our mental scrapbook.Don’t let not overcoming a few fears steal this away from you.

The Refuge,and The Solace

I feel safe tonight as the words and thoughts comfort me.
Even if just for a moment.
The false sense of security that’s hiding behind media images and autocorrect.
This is what’s  keeping me unemotional and focused to the task at hand.
Impartial and ambiguous.
I am not the strongest person,but i shall hold the weight on my shoulder,and try my best not to fall down.
If i ramble like an intoxicated fool,it’s ok.
No liquor was abused or harmed in making this piece.
Drunk from reality,and it’s giving me quite the hangover.
I am ready to deal with it all.
Even if i’m not ready,i will still deal with it.
Bring on the Tylenlol,it’s going to be long night
And day
And night.

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Be proud of yourself

We must learn to see and acknowledge our strengths as well as our shortcomings.This blog is a perfect example of a good daily routine

Shelly Ray

For the past few weeks I have been feeling a little down. Some might say I’ve been in a rut. This is due to not being completely happy with certain things in my life, putting a lot of pressure on myself to change them, and also just general feelings of sadness and annoyance that don’t seem to stem from any one thing in particular.

While working out today I had an epiphany of sorts, and I thought I would share it in case any of you are struggling with some of the feelings of doubt and unhappiness that I have been experiencing. My epiphany was that I do not do a good enough job of patting myself on the back for all of the things I am doing right. Instead, I focus on the negatives or what I think I could be doing better. This causes a lot of unnecessary stress and…

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Until We Meet Again

“As we grew up, my brothers acted like they didn’t care,but I always knew they looked out for me and were there!”-from author Catherine Pulsifer

Even when i was a young girl, I never liked saying the ever so formal and seems so final word goodbye.Yes it may sound a little melodramatic, but it is true. I found it more reassuring (mainly for myself),if i said “see you later” ,it gave more hope and promise that we would see each other again.I still feel this way as an adult .

Well two short days ago, i had to say this to my older brother,who left this earthly world very unexpectedly.I had no clue, along with family that he would be leaving us so soon.He was a very strong and domineering man, in the very likeness of our father(who passed only two short years ago ).They both were the type of men that if they had to deal with a problem or issue(health,financial,or emotional) they would handle it themselves because that is what  men do and they won’t have to get the family worried and upset about whatever is going on. Lord only knows their hearts were in the right place, but their pride just got in the way of letting family be there for them as moral support.

Both of these men will forever hold a very special place in my heart, and each in a different chamber of my heart.But until we meet again  guys……know that I’ll see you later.

Save that money

“When you have money, think of the time you had none” Japanese Proverb

In this day and age ,everybody no matter what walk of life you may be from, is trying to save money.We all love a good sale, finding that great deal that was almost a steal.When we do find that deal, and it just so happens to be exactly what we looking for , we leave that store victorious like we left the arena and won the event for our respective districts(my Hunger Games fans will definitely get a chuckle here).

Now don’t get caught up in the foolery of buying more (especially if you have no need for it)just because of the sale price, because then you are still spending  unnecessary money instead of saving money. Now if it is an item that you do use,and have a sizable family, there are advantages to buying items in bulk, and why places like Costos and BJ Wholesalers fair rather well.

With all the technology we have today, most times there is no need to  even clip those coupons or even read that circular( that they still continue to throw on our welcome mat or in the general vicinity).There are a plethora of apps such as:Ibotta,RetailMeNot,Flipp,Retale, and Ebates just to name a few, but the list is quite extensive.

Coupons without the paper, just your trusty smartphone. Seniors take full advantage of any discounts(show your id if you have to), if you hold a professional license (show your i.d. as well) for a savings, our ever so humble veterans as well ,show your id and with great pride. We work way too hard for the money to just spend it frivolously, learn how to spend it wisely.Your pockets and pocketbooks will thank me later for this advice, and you got it for the best price ever ……FREE!

Using Your Words

The beauty of a language relies on it’s sound and word arrangements.

Words can carry so much power and convey how we  truly feel. Because they carry so much weight, to effectively communicate we need to choose the words we say and better yet, how we say them.This is definitely a skill to be learned, and as with any skill to perfect it you must practice to become better at it.Effective communication is essential within many aspects of everyday life: the workplace, within the family structure,school,marriage.

Now people often times figure if they talk to someone there are communicating, however what is the content of your conversation? If you are just having the whole”surfacy” conversation or that ever so polite conversation, you may be talking but not saying so much.But depending on the person and relationship that may be fine and dandy.But when dealing with a more personal relationship there has to be a more in depth conversation to get to the subject at hand.

Another part of the process is being able to listen(which is just is important as talking)with and open ear and mind.Sometimes if we just take the time to truly listen, we can get the perspective of the other person and have a much better understanding of the issue.You still may agree to disagree, and that is fine, differences in opinions and views make the world an interesting place .

The whole art of verbal communication can never, or will ever be a lost form no matter how many texts or emails we can send….lol.