When people in our lives hurt us, whether it is physically or mentally,we must learn and practice the true meaning of forgiveness.This is not an easy task by any means. When we are hurt, like a defense mechanism, we tend to put up a wall and boundary as to protect and shield ourselves.Sometimes this wall we will build is made up of anger and resentment. If we allow ourselves to feel this way we will stay on the “right”side of the wall and will not put ourselves in the position to be hurt again.This is how we rationalize our feelings, and almost make it seem like the right thing to do.But this is so off the mark from what we need to do.
Forgiveness is a process, that does not happen right away, and that is fine. When we hold on to hurt and hatred, we are impeding the process from even beginning.When we hold on to these feelings (which are totally understandable) it actually hurts us more than the people that we are carrying these negative feelings for.
Forgiveness goes beyond “I’m sorry”, it delves into WHY you are sorry, and how your actions may have affected someone else.Just saying the words to appease is not forgiveness.(which many of us have been guilty of doing).Sometimes we are not sorry we did something , we are just sorry we got caught or called out on doing it. (Just keeping it real here).
To be ready to forgive we have to let go of the resentment and anger and be willing to re-establish a better relationship,and move past a bad experience.Forgiving is about being understanding,having compassion, and outright godly. God forgives us everyday all day for our mistakes , so we need to take a page from the ultimate life guide and give it a try.It may be hard, depending on the specific circustances, but it can be done.
It can be a quite freeing experience, and allow you mentally to be more at peace, it may allow some closure or clarity , and no matter what the outcome may be it will allow YOU to move forward without the negitivity…..which is positively awsome!
Sipping tea with Dee 