It can be amazing how the mind works.Beliefs that you hold in your subconscious mind can hinder you from success and happiness.The mind is a vey powerful tool.
Negativity from others can be expected sometimes, but when the majority of the negativity comes from yourself, it can be even more detrimental .We take the wind from beneath our own wings before we even have a chance to fly .Hopes and dreams never even get a chance to make it off the ground.
Behavior is considered self sabotaging when it creates problems within one’s self and therefore interferes with long standing goals.Prime examples of this mindset is our ever so infamous procrastination(i don’t have to do it RIGHT now,i’ll do it later approach),self medicating(abuse of drugs or alcohol–I need something to destress myself and create a diverson from the issue approach),comfort eating or  under eating , and even self injury as well.These behaviors linger in some of our lives because there is a lack of self confidence and self esteem. They all correlate with one another,because that is just how the mind operates.
But like with and any other hard times that we may go through in life (even if we are the main ones  putting ourselves though the ringer the most)this too shall pass and it can be overcome.You have to out smart the sabotaging behavior by changing your mindset.Changing your mindset and believing in it as well.Think positive and do positive.Nope, no long drawn out methods to the madness, it is just that simple.It can be as simple as postive affirmations during the course of the day, to creating the best love affair ever ………..with yourself. When you feel good about yourself it boosts your self esteem and you think more positive, and when we love ourselves(truly and deeply) we don’t even think twice about if what we are doing is wrong or right:we just do it……which is the opposite of procrastination.
Be willing to think more positive , and you will be able to get past the mental roadblock, that YOU were putting up. You will be able to get around it , and get to your happy place.
Sipping tea with Dee 
I am terrible for procrastination especially. I really need to learn to beat that one.
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All of these things or at least one can be an ongoing struggle at times.You just have to conquer it before it tries to conquer you.
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Changing my mind set on certain things in my life has made all the difference in things for me.
GREAT READ!!! Thank you.
-Sav
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I’m guilty so me and the guy in the mirror have to talk. He’s hard headed lol
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Make sure you have that talk with him soon………rather then the proverbial ……LATER.
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Good read! I keep saying I need to deal with my procrastination issues but…
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I can be guilty of this. As a coach and someone who spews positivity to the world I find myself sometimes expecting the worst in relationships and frienships. It’s self sabotaging because it’s in my mind to sabotage it before it can sabotage me. Subconsciously I’m being negative when I consciously believe Im positive. Just another thing to as God to fix. 🙂
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We all can digress and do it,but to err is human,we can only ask for help from a power much greater than our own to work on this.
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You’re so wise, woman! Great read to start my day! 🙂
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Thank you so much,i’m glad it could be your inspirational read for the morning!
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Dee, I just love this piece you wrote.I have so many times destroyed myself for the mistakes of others but believing in God made me build myself back up again.Your ability to use words in such a powerful way is a true gift.Greetings from South Africa.
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Thank you very much for your kind words,and I’m glad you enjoyed the piece.Salutations my friend. Being able to use my gift and walk in my purpose is a blessing that i will continue to share for as long as i can.
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